The power of visualisation

“Menopause is the body’s way of handing you the microphone and saying, ‘Your turn.'”

These Facebook groups focused on relocation and early retirement only make the retirement perspective all the more appealing. How can you even dare to scroll past? This is how we wish we lived all our lives in the first place! Dreaming keeps us moving, gives us an objective. What’s life without one?

Great weather, great food, great health, great connections! It is all I need. 100% pure and unadulterated lazy happiness! 😍

I mean, how can you resist this happiness pull? All we all want is a simple, naturally affordable, healthy and fun life!

Everyone is travelling to find the living dream perfect spot. And (over)posting about it. Everyone doing the ground work for us, making it easier to find the spot.

I already narrowed down mine to half a dozen. Can you take a guess? Now it’s just a case of keeping an eye on the weather, world economics and politics 🥴

A health(y) investment

santorini, rose glass, sunset

“Menopause: when the fire inside you matches your ambition.”

Keeping a healthy weight in a Mediterranean culture meant keeping a well-rounded body. When I stayed at my grandparents for the holidays, they would think a good set of chubby cheeks meant good health; it meant we were well-nourished. All a reflex of their life experience, of the poverty most of their generation went through. So they were amazing feeders, but feeders in times when the food we were eating was whole and fully organic, as they should naturally come. 🥰😛

I still remember male friends of mine saying they wouldn’t like to have sex with a woman so thin that you could feel her bones…😆 Being well-rounded didn’t mean overweight, it meant full-bodied. My parents were a little more ahead of their generation, considering they were not wealthy and had no access to additional information (no internet at the time, remember?), but they have always had a very grounded common sense, so they always compelled me to exercise – I’ve been naturally inclined to it too, myself – to use the calories of what I was eating, especially during my teenage years… My dad then enrolled me to this maintenance gymnastics class when I was 13. Later I took it just a step further and joined the club’s acrobatics competition gymnastics class. And I never stopped exercising since (no competition never really happened, studies and work got in the way.

Then, as I got into the adult life and my foodie culture haunted me, I joined lunch break maintenance classes, joined the gym, jogged a lot when I became a mother (actually pushed the chair!). I had to keep the balance…

As I reached perimenopause, my energy levels decreased, so I had to adapt the exercises to suit. In fact, when it was my brain fog that prompted me to find where I actually was in this journey. I Googled it up, read through a bunch of menopause-related articles and found this 12-week menopause meal & exercise plan that helped (and is still helping other women) since 2008, with well-researched and proven results. This was the end of 2021.

I learned a lot, been on and off the programme, but some rules stuck and I continue following them:

  • Exercises – targeting my situation
  • Meditation & Yoga
  • Staple foods (whole only) – no white products like: white pasta, white bread, white rice
  • Supplements – the nutrients my body is missing or produces in insufficient amounts

The main one was: if you are good 80% of the time, it’s ok to be naughty the other 20%.

The truth is we all want our lives to be long and happy, but that can only happen if we’re healthy mentally and physically. But that requires some effort and self-dedication, and sometimes it may mean making hard choices, like not drinking a glass of wine every night 😁. But it does mean that when we do get to have it, it will be enjoyed in full, feeling like a reward for good behaviour 🍷

30+ Still with Mum and Dad

Surely like many of you, I’m part of some groups on themes of personal interest. Every so often I see a post that triggers me.

I might be about to sound quite harsh for some, but as I’m old school AND still hold some of those old views, that won’t stop me 😂

I’m sorry… 30  and still ay mum and dad’s? I would be deeply embarrassed. I mean, even if they pay rent, surely that learning curve has expired by 30… How little ambition do you have to have to just cling on to your parents?

Like my parents I make a point to remind my children how much everything costs and what other things we are unable to have for making those choices. It’s all about transmitting them a sense of responsibility, priority and value.

I know this can be annoying (my father did it often, even though as I got older I realised we were not that poor) but it surely made me want to leave so I didn’t have to put up with his moaning! And I think that’s working the same for my children.

In reality, nothing ever went missing in my life. I had all I needed to grow into a healthy, responsible adult.

Social media brings a lazy success deceit that leads these new generations to believe that anybody can be successful just by posting random online videos. We need to stop normalising this. There is a current viral misguiding of our children into this unlikely profitable fare niente. Not only is this misleading, but it also drives our young ones into this affiliation exploitation. But I diverge.

II always tell my children to ALWAYS have a Plan B. They can still play around online and test the waters, but I want them to be aware that it is a very volatile world. What is true today can become a lie tomorrow. And unfortunately, the virtual world is starting to overflow to the real one at several levels. But that’s a view for another post 😏

Always plan for the event to go wrong. Always have a job you can fall back on. And the better the job, the higher the chances to maintain whatever life style you are looking to achieve with Plan A.

Personal Spring Clean


Menopause is just puberty’s older, wiser sister.

What better (brighter) season in the year will enable us to see things at their clearest? Being a little OCD, I consider it quite a satisfying task 😁

Going through this relatively new phase of my female life made me re-evaluate it. Menopause (and I guess andropause too) is that stage where we’re given the chance to revisit our memories (yes, also to exercise our brain), to review and reset our current position.

Let’s see… COVID, perimenopause, teenage daughter through a mental health ordeal, work redundancy, now teenager son going through an ordeal of his own to fit in with his crowd (absences, detentions, suspensions… ), the imminence of a World War, global warming and all sorts of natural catastrophes happening where they are least expected…

In nearby circles, someone we know has been given a shorter life expectancy, a friend’s mom just passed away… I’m just not ready for any of it yet. Grateful that we are all still alive and well 🙏🙏 and that we are not celebrities (an absolutely PRICELESS gift!)

On these notes, this will be the order of works:

  • A full download of all my information on Facebook since I have the account
  • Deleting any photos or videos of my children
  • Tightening my privacy group: deleting, unfriending and unfollowing (just not completely deleting the account because I still get some useful and interesting information on my wall, which I might otherwise not get. Social media for me is no longer about connecting with people, it is about noziness and gossip.)
  • Making my IG profile Private
  • Financial investment from now on will only be in myself (health and interests). It is the only worthwhile investment. I’d rather invest in my health NOW than save up for an “unhealthy” day. Money will only make a difference if sensibly applied. And we all know that if our health gets seriously affected, money does very little, if anything at all.
  • Allocate more time for myself to do things I enjoy (I want to go back into reading, going out more, travelling, etc).

I am keeping Facebook and IG for my blogging and rant shares only, practically ignoring my LinkedIN (no need, no time and very little interest).

Prioritising myself is a MUST. I don’t have the time or the patience for mindless doom-scrolling nor do I identify with the current mainstream no fun hysterical-dumb-influencers-cancel-little-minded culture.

Menopause is a wake-up call for me: time to slow down and to enjoy what time I’ve got left.

Mumma’s Menopausal Journey


“Menopause is not an ending; it’s a powerful new beginning.”

I believe I started my perimenopause about 4 years ago. I was 44. The brain fog was my trigger. It became more present as days went by. I realised it when I started forgetting things I had no problem recalling before.

Brain fog (yes) – but this could also be attributed to my busy schedule allied to my evening vinomania (I do like my red wine). I just have to include reading into my newfound ME time – which I will be sharing with you -.

The odd night sweat (yes) – which for me is PERFECT, since I’m an Iberian woman living in a Northern European country (it does make withstanding the cold winters much better).

Some difficulty keeping weight down (yes) – but I try and stick to the 80/20 ratio: if I’m good 80% of the time I can be naugthy the other 20%. We’ve got to live a little…

The sex is not as regular (yes) but it is better as ever… 😍 We lead busy lives (around full-time work, kids and little house projects) so it is hard to find the energy… We also found that when we have both time and money planning dinner dates and weekends ahead away helps with it all. It works really well, if we’re both looking forward to it, the build-up to it, a bit like a pre-foreplay if you will.


Let’s stop this idea that menopause is a taboo topic, or that it is that bad. Because it isn’t. Let’s embrace our nature, girls

Generation X

The 1990s were a defining era for Generation X, packed with trends that shaped their identity. Here’s a look at the top five trends that my generation loved during that transformative decade:

1. Grunge Music and Fashion

The 1990s witnessed the rise of grunge, a cultural movement rooted in the alternative rock scene of Seattle. Bands like Nirvana, Pearl Jam, and Soundgarden became the soundtrack of Gen X’s formative years. Alongside the music, grunge-inspired a distinct fashion trend characterized by flannel shirts, ripped jeans, and Doc Martens boots. This anti-establishment aesthetic resonated with Gen X’s ethos of rejecting traditional norms and embracing individuality.

2. Iconic TV Shows

Television became a major cultural touchstone, with shows like Friends, The X-Files, and Seinfeld dominating screens and conversations. These series reflected the humour, relationships, and uncertainties of adulthood, making them relatable to Gen Xers navigating their own coming-of-age journeys. MTV also played a pivotal role with shows like Beavis and Butt-Head and The Real World, blending music, humour, and reality to create a unique connection with viewers.

3. The Tech Revolution

The ‘90s marked the beginning of the digital age, and we were at the forefront of adopting new technologies. Personal computers, AOL instant messaging, and the first mobile phones became symbols of the decade. Video gaming also soared in popularity with systems like the Sega Genesis, Super Nintendo, and the groundbreaking Sony PlayStation. This era laid the groundwork for Gen X’s affinity for tech-savvy lifestyles.

4. Alternative Movies and Indie Films

Hollywood’s landscape shifted this decade, with indie films gaining prominence. Quentin Tarantino (Pulp Fiction), Richard Linklater (Dazed and Confused), and Kevin Smith (Clerks) created movies that spoke to Gen X’s unique sensibilities. Themes of disillusionment, wit, and rebellion struck a chord, while blockbuster hits like Titanic and The Matrix captivated mainstream audiences.

5. Retro and DIY Culture

Gen X had a strong nostalgic streak even in the ‘90s, reviving retro styles and embracing a DIY ethic. Vintage band T-shirts, mix tapes, thrift shopping, and garage bands were expressions of this trend. The skateboarding culture flourished with brands like Vans and Thrasher, reflecting the generation’s preference for authentic, grassroots movements over corporate homogenization.

A Lasting Impact

These trends weren’t just fleeting fads—they defined a generation and influenced the broader cultural landscape. Grunge music and fashion reshaped the music industry and retail markets. Iconic TV shows became timeless classics. The technological innovations of the decade paved the way for the modern digital world. Indie films showed the power of storytelling outside of Hollywood’s formula, and retro culture inspired the wave of nostalgia still prevalent today.

For Gen X, the ‘90s weren’t just a decade—they were a lifestyle. The trends we embraced continue to echo in today’s fashion, entertainment, and tech industries, proving their enduring impact on popular culture.

Nostalgic Mumma

A new beginning

Things happen for a reason. It’s funny how we tend to put pressure on ourselves to be high achievers, when we’re doing just fine, compared to the new generation.

A year ago I started a tee and mug online business on Shopify. I decided to give it a go. My theme was nostalgic key references (ie 80s and 90s tech, music, movies, etc). And although it had some traction, it didn’t have enough for me to continue so I decided to shut it down.

I felt imprisoned to a sales job that was meant to be just a hobby. The pressure of 1) finding time 2) finding headspace and creativity 3) financial burden vs little to no sales I was getting made my decision an easy one. I still work full-time. I am still a mother (and housewife). A creative job is not one you do well under pressure.

I enjoyed the creative side of things, but I could not afford the time or money. We pay for a domain, to verify the business, for APIs to work out the POD for us and all we needed to do was to post engaging content and wait for the results. A marketing and SEO strategies were needed. Who the hell knows the perfect strategy? Knowing when to post as it’s when people will be more likely to see it. Paying someone to adjust our business SEO settings so that it ranks when people Google our products. Then if we pay that little extra, our products are in effect “force-fed” to the audience that is more likely to buy our products… And all this costs money. Money I could be using else where (towards our house works, holidays, dinners out…)

The way I see it, the more businesses act on this premise the less likelyhood they are to rank up. It’s the race of the highest bidder. Just too much stress. I want to enjoy living. That’s all very well and good for big businesses that can afford to increase their bidding. I’m off that race.

Also, in my mind, a pool of followers that is organic is much more likely to gain traction, AND to buy from us. I am against purchasing contact lists, and forcing people to look at products if these are not looking for them. Personally, it has also been a big bug bear of mine to deal with pushy sales. “If I want your help, I will reach out”.

And I do believe my products had a market. A nostalgic, retro market, which is now at its peak. like fashion, culture is cyclic. It goes around and comes back around.

Maybe in a couple of years time, once things settle a little (Charlotte goes to Uni, Cedric’s over the teen years) my outlook on a business venture is more laid back. They still need me. A lot. And both, me and my partner want to make the point of being there for them. I refuse to be part of the statistics linked to mental health problems, or for my children to be one more adult that is scared to be part of the working force or to go out in the world because of what the mass media wants to push us to believe. I want them to be able to see through the fake news, the fake high lifestyle many influencers portray to be easy to achieve, whilst that life is being funded by their dumb, blind followers.

I don’t want them to take part in the wrong mob following, where they would remain silent when coming across injustices. I want them to follow inspiring, righteous and kind type of influencers, even if they don’t have a social media account.

Running a small business in our current world is a mission. Social media plays a big part in it (at least at the moment). I expect it to mutate in some way, as AI infiltrates it. Then the human input will be so little that we’ll have to find other ways to connect in a more personal way. And this is what I was looking for. But the social media world is hard to unfilter. The ones you see succeeding are either already celebs (or make fun of celebs), post noisy and bright content, practise affiliate marketing, or that post controversial content. Well, I don’t want to be part of any of those.

Now I will be posting as a simple blogger. Where I used to publish as Witty Freelancer, I am now Nostalgic Mumma, showing my views from a nearly half-a-century point of view. GenXer all the way, undeniably. Too old not to be proud of that, after all I’ve been assisting, and “Cancel Culture” is not in my vocabulary. Back to the whiteboard.

Welcome to my slow and happy nostalgic journey ✌

The Wordcraft Blog Letter #7

People Mean Business

“Companies need to nurture their employee’s individual nature for them to feel confident in their role, as it will empower them, hence making them more productive. It works from the inside out.”

Remote Work
In case you missed it…

It has been a while since I scanned through the world of remote/hybrid working, so I’m going to play a little catch-up. Going through the top ones since January was not an easy task. But it gave me a good insight into the remote work trends, and it put it into perspective for me.

Shocking (or not) that someone like Elon Musk, who is in an advantageous position to substantially improve remote working through tech applications has declared to be against it and found it “morally wrong” based on this work format not being available to those more hand-skilled workers. His comments should in fact cause hand-skilled workers indignation, for his clear lack of will to make this format possible for them too. The public comments are quite funny and can often offer added insight to the news articles.

But on to more important things, we are now well aware that remote work is intrinsically related to the growingly trendy mental health topic.  It’s about how working from home can be damaging to one’s mental wellbeing. It’s said to bring feelings of isolation, which can lead to an inability to adapt, hindering professional progress. Moreover, when staff is confronted (even forced) to work with such a required high level of independence when it was mostly used to working interactively (and/or relying on others), this can threaten their employment.

This can trigger a sequence of unwanted events: stressing about work, which leads to stress about the job position’s relevance when not achieving or delivering. This will be followed by concerns on how to pay the ever-growing bills cost in the current recession. On the other hand we observe the fear of the temporary loss of turnover from employers, that may come as a result of the required allocated time to workshops and training related to mental health, in an already dreaded remote setting. But the revenue that taking this action brings, in the medium term, could attract, will surely overcome it.

In certain cases, there almost seems to be an avoidance, where some employers hope that if they ignore a problem for long enough it will just go away. But they’re happy to assume their workers are just being lazy when they’re not being as productive as expected, without actually offering any solution. There is no benefit for either employees or employers to not have this support in place. With the information and technology currently available, and with access to all information worldwide and in such depth, the unawareness excuse has become unacceptable.

Although companies are not yet at the ideal mental health empathetic level they could be, their awareness of the matter is growing. This is a very positive shift for all corporate work environments. The same applies to fully remote workers, whether working from the comfort of their home or from the comfort of a nice hotel in some remote paradisiac island. Here’s an article with tips to help nomad freelancers manage their work and life balance whilst still preserving their mental health. 

Remote/hybrid work can benefit individuals And if it benefits individuals, it benefits businesses. I can however understand that it doesn’t work for everyone. Either because the work requires it to be office-based, because the individual is not comfortable with working remotely or simply because the required conditions to work from home are not fully met (ie. children and pets, cared ones). This should be a conversation to be had with the employer on a case-by-case basis. It may sound like a time-consuming task but if there are guidelines in place, in partnership with the HR and other relevant Departments this could bring a whole new world of possibilities. What measures is the company willing to put in place to allow this freedom of choice? Perhaps a workshop that covers all areas is in order: mental wellbeing, technology refreshers, expected SLA’s and KPI’s overview, productivity, etc. And acknowledgement: verbally recognising that the employees are also willing to put effort into this will help them not to be left feeling ignored. This is an article from last year, from a company I follow, but I related to the view 100%.

I wouldn’t mind guessing that the people who tend to be more socially active in a physical setting become awkwardly shy in their virtual engagement and the more conservative ones may see remote working as an opportunity to showcase their talents. Companies need to nurture their employee’s individual nature for them to feel confident in their role, as it will empower them, hence making them more productive. It works from the inside out.

What about the extended benefits that remote work brings the business, the higher engagement with other teams, located across the globe? The potential, the opportunity of a wider inclusion and connection with extended teams, how can physical work offer that? Invest in the people and the people will bring business.

My view of remote work sits in the middle. I find hybrid work offers a very reasonable work-life balance for me, for the time being. I like the idea of getting a good amount of autonomy in my work without damage to the physical interaction that the job requires, whilst maintaining a good level of control over my home life. I’m not surprised that many will be willing to take a pay cut or look for another job that grants that freedom if working from home allows a better grip over their life as a whole. And that’s what the Great Resignation was all about.

As a huge defender of hybrid work for corporate jobs, I truly find it the best of both worlds. I have mentioned this in my latest #goals post as well. I disagree with the overlooking or the persistent denial of the productivity potential that it brings to our existence. I strongly feel that much of this has to do with remote/hybrid working. The autonomy it grants us make such a difference in our work-life balance.

Commuting feels like such a waste of time (and money) looking back now. To top that up, my productivity exponentially increased. And alongside the work productivity, is none other than the home life productivity.  I have lost count of how many washing loads I have got through, how many lunch packs I prepared, during my commuting time and how many clothes I’ve ironed over my lunch break, which has granted me that much-needed/deserved extra time during the weekend. Quality family time! Quality WRITING time!

Working towards that 100% balance between life and work, where ideally the balance should, in fact, lean more towards LIFE, where the scale weighs 100% work no longer represents a necessary “evil” for the purpose of sustenance (and those life crutches, creature comforts, whatever you want to call it). What we want to achieve is the Minimax principle where we get the maximum of enjoyment or wealth with the minimum effort or pain. The best minus the worse, does that make sense?

On this note, as I love travelling so much and agree wholeheartedly with this article, simple, well articulated and very positive, it is important to cultivate the things that keep us sane and joyful. At least until our social and financial systems reach that peak where work and pleasure intertwine in a such seamless way, that you can’t tell you are working. Now that’s the way (huh-huh) I like it! (Emphasis on the quoting before someone sues me for infringing copyright laws.

Because sharing is caring
On The Knowledge Newsletter:

It is true. I take regular phone calls as an advisor and not only I can tell the caller’s predisposition when they call (i.e. if they’re in a good or moaning mood) but I can also tell the effect my attitude on the phone has in their reaction. I can easily tell that both my posture and attitude have an impact on the reaction of the person at the other end of the phone. We would be being too narrow-minded to think the power of suggestion is only verbal when it can also be transmitted through our non-visible body language.

On TED: Copyright or appropriation

Another great TED talk, by Damien Riehl. Very worth reading. In this day and age, drowned with commercial capitalism, our society is being constantly moulded to suit a specific purpose. It has been consumed by quick money fixes and, by this talk, some resort to more desperate means to achieve a bit of cash. Damien actually makes a very valid point. Have you ever thought that music is actually maths-based? It is based on algorithms meaning that, in reality, all music harmonic (and disharmonic) combinations are limited.

Thinking with Google UK: The current nostalgia trends

It is so refreshing to see the brands I grew up with making a return. It is inspiring and a great way to create bonds with the new generation, by only revisiting these brands and remember what they meant for us. Where our favourite branded t-shirts were offered to attract more consumers, or as a prize for our regular buys, collecting points of a sort, nowadays this retro fandom has brought a new way to bring new business to old businesses. Now nostalgia has made a comeback on all areas, clothing, music, hairstyle, you name it. To be fair, is only human to want to partake of the atmosphere of the best decades to have ever existed :)

Mind promenade

This blogletter is a work in progress. I am looking for that balance between my availability, my interests. and the reviewing and formatting (when Grammarly doesn’t betray me…).

Life gets very busy very fast and often for long periods. We see life passing us by and our goals still unmet and, obviously we question ourselves. “Oh happiness, goals, personal satisfaction, where are thee?”

A writer’s journey is not one with a deadline, yet that’s what they are loyal to. The writer’s journey is more about themselves than it is to complete the writing task. If they follow their true writing path, they’ll find they’re only trying to understand themselves, continuously looking for a spark.

For someone that leads a busy life, no reading or research feels enough to achieve the goal. It always seems like everything has already been written, all possibilities explored. We live in a world where people’s attention span is getting shorter, where they are more likely to focus on short, noisy, flashy content, such as the hysterical videos my kids sometimes watch. There is no substance to them. 9 out of 10 posts are not true, are not helpful and can have a negative impact on the viewers’ mental well-being. I don’t know when this new generation started valuing superficiality. It is not even entertaining.

For me, reading is a luxury that relies on time. My reading at the moment is mostly limited to practical guidance and self-help. I struggle to set it as a high priority because most days life consumes my energy with mundane but still necessary tasks. “Set time aside for yourself”, they say, “we all need some ME time”. But where do I draw the line between ME time and LIFE time? 

And then there’s the social media pressure. If you can’t win them, join them, right? If we don’t engage we’re seen as anti-social. Today there’s no social interaction that doesn’t include a phone. Even if you meet friends for dinner, if they’re not constantly referring to it to post pics or to respond to comments, they’ll get it out just to share gossip or a funny post or video. We end up all getting our phones out because everyone seems to find it more interesting than the physical act of social interaction. It is truly a sad state of affairs… But I diverge.

I still haven’t given up my quest to read more, to write more. Reading is like decoding a secret message, it’s not just reading for reading, it’s about reading between the lines, it’s about my interpretation of what I’m reading. Well, it also depends on what I’m reading, of course. The truth is when you commit to doing it, that spark returns, without you even realising it. All of a sudden there is a little hope that maybe what I’m writing might have some significance, resonate with someone or even entertain. But the most fun part of writing is the game of putting words together with an intention, a meaning. Playing with words can be so interesting, especially if you are working on a topic that you are curious about. I had forgotten that even researching can be fun.

A couple of weeks ago, following submitting a piece of writing to a freelance writing platform, I was invited to complete a trial order. So I set myself the task to spend some time at the local library so that I could focus on research in a more effective way than I would have done, had I stayed home. It would just not be possible. Children and teenagers are demanding little buggers. If one part of me loves them to bits, the other wishes that they grow and move on to more independent lives, and so I can resume mine.

There’s more to life than work

I sometimes find myself getting too stressed about work. The corporate world can be harsh and doesn’t truly empathise with our personal life. Managers keep pushing us to achieve goals and to progress in our careers, but the way that they do it leaves us feeling like if we don’t present objectives we run the risk to become obsoletes. 

What is wrong with us just being good on what we’re doing? Maybe we’re just not prepared to move on at a given moment, maybe our true career objectives don’t match the opportunities we’re offered, maybe we’ll be better off drawing our own path?

Lunch break n the office grounds

I’m happy with the job I’ve got at the moment and to stay where I am right now, when I’ve got personal matters to resolve that require my focus and because of that I’n not in a position to be facing new challenges. Is that so wrong? My multitasking skills are limited to a certain area, if tasks differ too much I will burn out, and I really can’t afford to. The job I’ve got provides me with financial stability, doing a good job (in a near autopilot mode), offers good perks (a good team spirit, a good location, hybrid work) whilst allowing me to place my focus in other areas of interest. One of the work-balance premises is certainly self-preservation, wouldn’t you say